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7 things that happen when you ignore a narcissist

  • July 27, 2023
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Introduction

Narcissism is a term derived from the Greek myth of Narcissus, who fell in love with his own reflection. In modern psychology, narcissism refers to a personality disorder characterized by excessive self-love, a lack of empathy, and an insatiable need for admiration and validation. People with narcissistic traits often manipulate others to fulfill their own needs and desires. One of the most effective ways to handle a narcissist is to establish boundaries and ignore their attempts at manipulation. This article will explore what you can expect when you decide to ignore a narcissist.

Initial Confusion

The first thing you may notice when you begin to ignore a narcissist is their confusion. Narcissists are used to being the center of attention and having their needs met. When you suddenly withdraw your attention and refuse to play by their rules, they may not know how to react. This initial confusion can manifest as a mix of bewilderment and annoyance as they try to understand why their usual tactics are not working.

Increased Attempts at Manipulation

When a narcissist realizes that their tactics are not working, they may try to intensify their manipulative behavior. They may try to guilt-trip, gaslight, or charm you into giving them the attention and validation they crave. You may receive an outpouring of compliments, love-bombing, or persistent attempts to initiate contact. Be prepared for these tactics and continue to maintain your boundaries. It’s crucial not to give in to these manipulative tactics, as doing so will only reinforce their belief that they can control you.

Anger and Frustration

As the narcissist’s manipulative tactics continue to fail, they may become increasingly angry and frustrated. They may lash out at you with verbal or emotional abuse, attempting to regain control over the situation. It’s important to understand that their anger is not a reflection of your actions, but rather a result of their inability to manipulate you as they have done in the past.

During this phase, you may witness the narcissist engage in devaluation, where they belittle or demean you to make themselves feel superior. They may insult your intelligence, appearance, or accomplishments in an attempt to regain their sense of power. Remember to stand firm in your boundaries and not to engage with their hurtful comments.

Smear Campaigns

In some cases, a narcissist may resort to launching a smear campaign against you, spreading lies or exaggerations about your character to friends, family, or even colleagues. Their goal is to damage your reputation and isolate you from your support network, making it easier for them to regain control over you.

If you become aware of a smear campaign, it’s essential not to react defensively or try to justify yourself to the narcissist or their enablers. Instead, focus on maintaining your integrity and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care for you and can see through the narcissist’s manipulations.

The Discard Phase

If the narcissist continues to be unsuccessful in their attempts to regain control, they may decide that you are no longer a valuable source of narcissistic supply and discard you. This could mean that they suddenly cut off all contact, move on to a new target, or simply stop trying to manipulate you. While the discard phase can be painful, it is an opportunity to break free from the toxic cycle of manipulation and control.

Hoovering

Even after discarding you, the narcissist may try to “hoover” you back into their life. Hoovering is a term that refers to the narcissist’s attempts to suck you back into their world of manipulation, often by acting apologetic, giving false promises of change, or using other tactics to make you feel guilty or obligated to re-engage with them.

It’s essential to remain vigilant during this phase, as narcissists rarely change their behavior permanently. The cycle of abuse and manipulation is likely to continue if you allow them back into your life. Instead, focus on your own healing and continue to maintain your boundaries.

Personal Growth and Healing

Ignoring a narcissist and breaking free from their manipulation is a challenging yet necessary step towards personal growth and healing. As you distance yourself from the narcissist, you may experience a range of emotions, including relief, sadness, and anger. It’s crucial to allow yourself the space to process these emotions and seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional.

During this time, it’s essential to prioritize self-care, engage in activities that bring you joy, and strengthen your support network. This journey will help you develop a deeper understanding of your own boundaries and self-worth, ultimately allowing you to create healthier relationships in the future.

Conclusion

Ignoring a narcissist can be a difficult but necessary step towards reclaiming your life and healing from the effects of narcissistic abuse. Expect the narcissist to go through various stages of confusion, increased manipulation, anger, smear campaigns, and even hoovering. It’s important to remain strong in your resolve and maintain your boundaries to prevent falling back into the cycle of abuse. As you embark on your journey towards personal growth and healing, remember to prioritize self-care, seek support from loved ones, and focus on building healthier relationships in the future.

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